Explaining Mediumship: A Game of Energetic Charades

When people ask me what mediumship is like, I often say it feels a lot like playing charades. I rely on my extrasensory perception (ESP) senses, known as the “Clairs,” to receive and interpret messages from sources that exist in a higher vibration than our physical reality. I may get flashes of images, phrases, emotions, or even tastes and smells. Mediumship is less about conjuring spirits and more about attuning ourselves to the ever-present connection of energy that surrounds and permeates all existence. Mediumship is an art of sensitivity and perception, a heightened awareness of the energies that flow through and around me. Through meditation, mindfulness, and trust in my inner senses, I can access insights, feelings, and messages from energies that exist beyond the physical world. It’s not magic, it’s a practice of deep awareness and connection.

Understanding the “Clairs”

Clairvoyance (Clear Seeing)

Sometimes, I see vivid images, symbols, or scenes in my mind’s eye. It's reminiscent of watching a silent film, with each picture serving as a hint from the spirit.

Clairaudience (Clear Hearing)

At other times, I “hear” a name, phrase, or sound that stands out. It is often accompanied by thought that pops into my mind, different from my usual thoughts. This could be a songs, how someone laughed, a common phrase used, a nickname, names of places of relevance, screeching brakes, engines revving, gunfire, school bells, animal noises etc.

Clairsentience (Clear Feeling)

I often sense emotions or physical sensations, such as joy, sadness, or even a pain in the body as piece of information regarding the experiences or health of the client or loved one no longer with us. This helps me understand what the spirit wants to convey, allowing me to connect more deeply with the person seeking guidance. If I feel a lingering sadness or deep shame, it might suggest unresolved issues that the loved one wants to address. We become fully aware of the pain we have caused others when we pass and often apologies are being offered for mistakes made or generational trauma that was unaddressed while living.

Claircognizance (Clear Knowing)

Occasionally, I just know something without any logical explanation. A fact simply drops into my awareness as if it has always been there or a fact I remember but not from my own memory.

Clairolfaction (Clear Smelling)

This happens less often than the above Clair’s but in prior readings I have smelled cigarette smoke, fresh-cut grass, engine oil, cigars, and rain offering another layer for us to interpret together.

Clairgustance (Clear Tasting)

This is my least used Clair, which surprises me because of how much I love food. I rarely taste something but have identified a favorite food and tasted blood/braces in prior readings.

The Experience of Mediumship

The process of mediumship often begins with grounding myself and the client through prayer or a brief guided meditation, creating a safe and open space where energies can be felt and interpreted while being energetically protected. Every reading is a unique blend of the above Clairs. Some spirits are more visual, while others communicate more heavily through feelings or sounds. Some have stronger personalities and a lot to say while others just want to communicate love and continued connection from their spirit state. My role is to trust what I’m receiving, even if it doesn’t make sense at first, and to share it with compassion and honesty. Mediumship isn’t always solemn or heavy. I’ve learned to embrace the joy and even the playfulness that can come through. Sometimes, spirits want to remind us of moments of joint laughter, quirky habits, or the simple pleasures they enjoyed in life. The energy in the room can shift dramatically depending on the openness and expectations of everyone present. Ultimately, being a medium means being open to all the ways spirit communicates, piecing together the charades-like clues using a combination of Clairs and asking them for clarification when we can’t figure out who they are or what they are talking about. I wish each one showed up with a name tag and bio, I’ve asked them to but it hasn’t happened yet, maybe one day. It’s a sacred, sometimes surprising, and always deeply human experience that can bring healing, love, clarity and connection to both the client and the loved one who is no longer with us. My favorite is when spirits who wouldn't have believed in mediumship while alive come through, because they don't hide their excitement and perplexity at the opportunity to play charades to communicate with the living.

Becoming a Medium

I think most of us experience "signs" and communication from our loved ones on the regular, you just don't call it mediumship. You call it coincidence or a god wink. Anyone can tune more fully into "the other side" with practice and intention. Getting good at it isn't just about natural talent; it's more about being committed, aware, and open to exploring your mind. Some people might find it easier, like how some folks are naturally sporty or artistic. Personally, being naturally psychic runs in my family, but going through trauma when I was young gave me a strong ability to disassociate. It was a way to cope, and it helped me handle my thoughts and feelings that were beyond my age. Add to that a wild and vivid imagination and it was easy for me to sense beyond the physical. This imaginative side, along with learning to really listen and trust my senses, has let me tap into the unseen in a way that feels pretty natural to me. But it's important to know that disassociating can go two ways. You might end up losing yourself in your imagination without any real purpose, which can disconnect you from reality. It can be a double-edged sword, offering escape but also isolation. You can learn to use your disassociation and imagination as tools for self-discovery, healing and growth. Now, after years of experience, it feels less like disassociating and more like dropping into the most centered part of myself and sending my consciousness out and up through my crown chakra.

Challenges of Mediumship

While mediumship is rewarding, it comes with challenges. Sometimes, communication feels murky, and the symbols or sensations don’t align. It leaves me questioning if I interpreted the messages accurately. Hello, imposter syndrome. Patience and persistence are essential, much like in charades, where moments of confusion may arise. I have often experienced that a clue that didn't make sense in the moment is an "easter egg" that becomes clear in the client's life at a later date. It is also why I tell my clients to take notes and to tell me what makes sense and what doesn't, so I can ask for clarity or expansion on a clue that we can't interpret. I also ask that you don't overshare information with me so that you can truly feel that information has come from your loved one's consciousness.

The emotions from connecting with spirits can be overwhelming. When I tap into the energies and feelings of those who have passed, I must remain grounded and keep our space energetically protected while maintaining a deep state of focused listening. This requires committing to a lifestyle that integrates nervous system regulation, physical embodiment and spiritual connection daily.

Final Thoughts on Embracing the Charades

I must approach my work with respect and integrity, because I recognize the impact the messages can have on individuals and their emotional well-being. Thus making the practice of discernment so important, ensuring that the messages conveyed are as accurate as possible but also delivered with compassion and sensitivity. Mediumship requires trust in the unseen, a willingness to embrace the unknown, and a heartfelt connection between me, the client and the loved ones coming through with messages. It invites individuals to embrace the idea that energy is a fundamental aspect of our existence, linking us to one another and to the universe itself. By playing with this idea of this interconnectedness, mediumship can offer a unique perspective on life, death, and everything in between, encouraging us to reflect on our own spiritual journey and the universal consciousness that binds us all.